Now let's look at the first example from the last post. "My kids won't behave". This would take some time to unfold and see what's going on but let's look at this from a stress reduction approach (not necessarily from a parenting model approach).
Take a look at what's going on inside you when your child misbehaves. Are you immediately stressed? Do you find yourself yelling? Did your child make you stressed or did you choose to get stressed? Say, he didn't get ready for school in the morning as he knows what is expected. Or does he? Reflect on your responsibility as a parent. Does he/she know what is expected? Have you communicated to him and he has repeated back to you those expectations? What is your plan if she chooses not to follow through? What about when she does? What is appropriate for her age? Though we are not necessarily approaching parenting skills here in this scenario, by you choosing to keep your attitude and tone of voice in check while you tend to your child's behavior will help you maintain control of you as you apply your parenting skills with your child.
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